7 Sexual Health Myths-BUSTED

When it comes to sexual health, no question is off-limits—especially when it can help protect you. We understand that some topics can feel uncomfortable, but our goal is to create a safe space where you can ask anything about pregnancy, prevention, and your sexual well-being without fear or judgment. We’re here to debunk some of the most common myths about sexually transmitted infections (STIs), how to prevent them, and why taking care of yourself matters.

If you think you have an STD, contact us today to see if you qualify for free testing.

MYTH #1

If I had an STD, I would know it.

STD and STI symptoms are often not obvious. Did you know a symptom of chlamydia is a sore throat? There are many symptoms that can mimic those of run-of-the-mill viruses or bacterial infections.

According to the CDC, Gonorrhea and chlamydia are two of the most common STIs in the U.S.

In 2022, the CDC reported 1.6 million cases of chlamydia (the most reported STI) and over 600,000 cases of gonorrhea. How common is it to not show symptoms?

Chlamydia

About 70% of women and 50% of men with chlamydia have no symptoms.

Gonorrhea

Up to 50% of women and around 10% of men may be asymptomatic.

Syphilis

Early stages can be symptom-free; latent syphilis is completely asymptomatic.

Herpes

Many infected individuals experience mild symptoms or none at all.

Human Papillomavirus (HPV)

Usually asymptomatic; many people clear the infection without knowing they had it.

Trichomoniasis

Approximately 70% of infected individuals show no symptoms.

Because many STIs are asymptomatic, people may unknowingly transmit infections to partners. Regular testing is crucial for sexually active individuals, even without symptoms. This is true for any type of sex - oral, anal, or vaginal. 

MYTH #2

My worth or identity is tied to my sexuality.

Your worth or identity isn’t tied to who you’re with or what you’ve done!

Too often, sex is used as a bandage for complicated feelings when what we all really want is to feel loved and valued. You are worthy of love – real love – no matter how messy or complicated things are and no matter what anyone else says.⠀

If you’re on a bad cycle and want to learn more about how to make healthier decisions with sex and relationships, come see us. You’ll find compassionate care without fear of shame or judgment. 

MYTH #3

I’m not at risk for STDs or pregnancy if I always use contraception.

It’s a myth that contraceptives are a foolproof method against pregnancy, and they do not protect against STDs. According to the National Institutes of Health, nearly half of all unexpected pregnancies occur while using contraceptives. Condoms, when used consistently and correctly every time, can reduce the risk of an STD, but it doesn’t eliminate the possibility. 

MYTH #4

No one is abstinent or celibate anymore.

According to the Institute for Family Studies, college-educated women in their mid to late 20s are almost three times as likely as other women to be celibate.

The truth is, we live in such a sex-saturated culture that people who choose to wait, or decide to be celibate again, often feel like they’re the only ones. If this is you, you’re not alone. Many people choose to wait for various reasons.  

You don’t have to be vocal about your status to everyone, but if you’re in a relationship, it’s important to share your boundaries and goals with your partner. A person who truly values you will respect your decision to wait. 

MYTH #5

I’ve only had oral sex, so I don’t need to get tested.

If you’re having sex – any form of sex – you need to get tested. That means even if you’ve never had intercourse but engage in oral or anal sex, you’re putting yourself at risk for an STI or STD. While other forms of sexual activity may not carry a risk of pregnancy, there are both emotional and physical side effects to any form of sex.

MYTH #6

Sex is expected. If I don’t put out, he’ll move on.

Sadly, this can be true for some people. However, in a healthy relationship, this is never true. If someone respects you, they respect ALL of you – boundaries and feelings included. True consent means someone won’t push, bully, or coerce you into sex. 

If you’re in a relationship where you feel coerced or pressured, move on. You deserve better. You deserve respect. 

MYTH #7

Porn is a great alternative to sex.

Porn may seem like a logical alternative to avoid STDs, STIs, and unplanned pregnancy.  But the truth is watching porn harms your brain, can cause an addiction, and decreases natural drive, but it also contributes to human trafficking. There is a laundry list of reasons why consuming porn can hurt your health and cause future relationship problems too. 

We love resources like Fight the New Drug that educate on porn and help women and men live free from porn.

We’ve Got Your Back

When it comes to sexual health and relationships, some great questions to ask are -

Will the choices I’m making today give me the future I want?

What can I do to best protect myself and my desired future?

If I’m making any destructive decisions, how can I change?

We can help you answer these questions and so much more. We believe you deserve a healthy relationship filled with love and respect. Your past does not determine your future, and change is possible with help. 

If you need someone to talk to or you don’t know where to start, reach out confidentially today.

References:

“Sexual Risk Behaviors | Reducing Health Risks Among Youth” highlights STI and pregnancy prevention strategies and CDC’s school-based interventions. https://www.cdc.gov/youth-behavior/risk-behaviors/sexual-risk-behaviors.html

Fight the New Drug. (2020). “Pornography Consumption…” Journal of Sex Research, 57(1), 92–103. https://fightthenewdrug.org/